In this episode with collaborative divorce attorney Ann Grant, we covered the top tools and takeaways that women need to consider as they navigate their way through divorce. Although it can be one of the most challenging times to come through in life, Ann shares ways for women to come out the other side happier, healthier, and healing so that they can be better for themselves and their families as they move forward with a new chapter in life. I wish I would have had this advice as I came through my divorce and I’m happy to share it with you.
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Key Points, Top Takeaways and Memorable Quotes -
“When you’re in that very uncertain place, that’s really where the magic can happen.” 5:55
“I really drilled down into my meditation practice, which I combined with my prayer practice.” 9:36
“Our children, my children, your children, learn by watching what we do and how we are, not by what we say.” 21:30
“Clients that have gone through the collaborative process are by far my happiest divorced clients.” 40:57
“It’s very important to have someone giving you advice.” 42:59
“The only way through it is through it.” 50:34
“Don't be scared, everything is going to be okay. Trust your gut, and take chances.” 56:34
Guest Bio - Ann Grant is an attorney, author, entrepreneur, a law professor—and—she is a SURVIVOR.
Ann experienced a perfect storm of loss during the 2008 financial crisis: Her 16 year marriage to the father of her children ended, the large multinational law firm where she was a partner dissolved and her Father passed away unexpectedly. Overwhelmed by these losses, she deepened her meditation practice to ground herself and to find a path through the chaos. Ann learned to follow her intuition during this time and started a support group for women contemplating divorce. She did not aspire to be a divorce attorney, but rather wanted to be of service to women facing divorce given her personal experience as the mother of three children.
What happened surprised and astounded Ann. People began to ask Ann to represent them in their divorces. Combining the legal skills she had acquired during her years as an experienced litigator with her personal experience as a mother—she was extremely effective-- both in and out of the courtroom. She brought in other experts to help along the way—including financial advisors, therapists and career counselors. This network of helping professionals was the impetus for Ann’s bestselling book, The Divorce Hacker’s Guide to Untying the Knot, which provides legal, financial, and psychological expertise to help the reader skillfully prepare and protect themself as they navigate the modern divorce—proactively, efficiently, resiliently.
Manhattan Beach Family Law has grown and has opened offices in Brentwood and Newport Beach.
Show Notes -
0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’
0:30 - WIMTS Podcast Intro
0:54 - Welcome to Ann
2:28 - Tell Us Your Story
8:59 - Tools for Tapping into the Magic
19:39 - Generational Healing
23:08 - Affect on Children of Divorce
26:43 - Be Better Commercial
27:15 - Recommendations for Women in Fear and Uncertainty
29:59 - Co-Parenting Discussion
32:51 - Letting Go of the Need to Control
38:04 - Collaborative Divorce
44:43 - Navigating Codependent Relationships Across Generations
49:32 - Simple Little Things Matter
51:36 - Breaking Down the Big Picture
52:26 - Divorce Hacker’s Guide to Untying the Knot Commercial
52:46 - Why Wendy Started Her TOJ Blog
56:22 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self
59:00 - How Old Are Your Kids?
59:48 - Thank You
59:59 - WIMTS Podcast Closing
Links & Where to Find Ann -
Email - admin@mbfamilylawyers.com
IG - @MBFamilyLaw