Former high school English teacher and Presence Coach Marcus Aurelius Higgs has a firm grasp on the wisdom of parenting pre-teens with presence through his SHOWUP framework that helps parenting build deeper connections with our kids. With Marcus’s deep understanding of positive psychology and the wisdom of the stoics, we were able to cut through some of the problems the ego presents and see how to create space for parents and kids to deepen their bonds for better connection through the teenage years. Key Points & Memorable Quotes - “Perspective is everything. There’s always something to learn.” - Wendy @ 1:42 “We form our beliefs by evidence and examples.” 3:28 “Mr. Rogers said, ‘If you want to help the kids, you help the parents.’” 8:27 “I’m going to take care of you to be in service to you. If you promise to take care of me to be in service to me.” 14:33 “Kids need a community of parents.” 7:08 “Hold space for collaboration means you’re not the problem, you are the solution to it.” 24:21 “The quality of your life is directly related to the quality of your communication.” 25:19 “What am I not willing to accept?” 42:14 “Everything that happened before prepares you for this moment.” 46:39 Guest Bio - M. Aurelius Higgs is a presence coach for parents of preteens. He works with Certain Future to support parents of preteens (10-14 y.o.) so they can show up and maintain a meaningful relationship with their child during these natural 'identity breaking’ years. He helps the parents be present with their son/daughter before it's too late to bridge the gap. Using The SHOW Up Framework, parents discover: 1. How to be confident in their communication when their tween starts having big emotions. 2. How to be present when their preteen starts to withdraw, so their child continues to trust them and naturally opens up difficult conversations. 3. How to support their child in ways to develop self-belief and resilience. A perfect client is if you hear a friend or family member say, "My daughter is really hard on herself. I want to help her with her confidence." "My son is starting to pull away. How can I get him to open up?" "The teenage years are coming and I have no idea what I’m doing." "I don't know how to talk to my child anymore. They're changing.
Show Notes -
0:00 - Welcome to What I Meant to Say with Guest, Marcus Aurelius Higgs
1:10 - The Love for Conversation
2:26 - Is There An Anti-Resilience Message Out There to Kids?
6:56 - Journey from English Teacher to Preteen Presence Coach
12:02 - The Road to Independence and Interdependence
16:32 - Kids Need A Community of Parents
22:06 - ‘SHOW UP’ Framework
35:30 - The Relationship Between Consequences and Parenting
39:08 - How to Create Calm in Parenting
48:15 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self
50:03 - Thank You & Closing
Links & Where to Find Marcus -