In this enlightening episode of What I Meant to Say, Wendy sits down with Dr. Eva Selhub—Harvard-trained physician, resilience expert, and author of The Love Response—to explore the intersection of science, spirituality, and somatic healing. Together, they discuss the cultural shift from fear-based living to conscious awareness, how mindfulness and nervous system intelligence are essential for resilience, and why curiosity, creativity, and joy are the true keys to longevity. Dr. Eva shares powerful insights from her career at Harvard’s Mind Body Medical Institute and her experiences volunteering with HIV patients—prompting the question: Are we living to avoid death, or to truly live? This conversation unpacks the rising planetary consciousness, the need for inner guidance systems, and how language can either shame us or lead us to compassion. Whether you're a parent, coach, or wellness seeker, this episode will expand your understanding of health, healing, and self-awareness in today’s evolving world.
Key Points & Memorable Quotes -
“Am I living my life in fear of dying or am I living my life because I want to live?” 4:49
“The goal is to change our culture and how we view ourselves, how we view life, how we view our reality, essentially consciousness.” 8:46
“You feel it. The consciousness of the planet is rising.” - Wendy @ 9:03
“There needs to be a way for us to have some type of signaling system to know when to adapt and when to rest.” 11:02
“The first thing is changing the narrative of not looking outside of ourselves at all.” 19:57
“Could is compassion. Should is shame.” 30:48
“That’s why mindfulness is so key, non-judgemental, observation, moment to moment awareness with love, compassion, and appreciation.” 38:44
“The key to longevity, resilience is curiosity, love, being present, joy, and creativity.” 41:47
“Doctors are doing the best they can given what they know. They just don’t know.” 46:47
“Given what is, what am I to do?” 49:09
Guest Bio -
Show Notes -
0:00 - Welcome to What I Meant to Say with Guest, Dr. Eva Selhub
0:23 - My First Book ‘Love Response’ & Exposure to HIV
5:09 - Volunteering at the Mind Body Medical Institute at Harvard
9:47 - How Does the Nervous System Intersect with Spirituality?
14:58 - Self-Awareness & Nervous System Safety
22:23 - Youth Mentorship & Media Influence on Mental Health
25:14 - Building Discernment, Trusting Your Intuition and Changing Your Language
31:47 - The Process of Self-Inquiry
34:17 - How to Use Mindfulness to Calm A Traumatized Chaotic Brain
42:45 - Mind Body Connection in Athletics
46:04 - The Biggest Issue in Medicine is Divisiveness
49:55 - How to Connect with Dr. Eva
Links & Where to Find Eva -